At a particularly hard moment this past week, I felt really frustrated with finances. It is really painful to look at another zeroed out bank account and realizing you don't even have money to drive back home, again, let alone knowing your going to have to make due with living off spaghetti for another week. On top of that the automatic payment of my tuition dipped into my savings account bringing me $200 in debt in tithing. And all this while I have been struggling for over a year to just get some breathing room in my bank account, Have you ever felt like that?
So I got on a phone call with my dad and poured out my frustration to him, expecting sympathy and receiving some of the best financial advice of my life, he told me to...
"Relax."
"These things just happen as God wants them to, you just got to enjoy life as it comes, some blessings come now, some come later, I had to wait until I was fourty-two in order to win a basketball tournament but it was better because all my kids could be there."
What a profound thought! Just to give some added validity to his thoughts on money, you need to realize that my dad has been semi-retired since his thirties, he has not been bad off. It seems very counter intuitive just to relax and let life bring you the opportunities and the money you need. It is definitely against all the loud voices of self help books, motivational speakers and business coaches who constantly promote your own ability to change your circumstances.
But consider the thought with me for a moment, what if there are things that are simply just beyond our control? Even with finances? If so, what we can't change, we could just come to peace with. It's kinda like a Lilly I have been considering, they grow by just opening themselves to the sunlight that surrounds them, and they are beautiful.
A lily doesn't worry about anything, it just grows naturally. Similarly, I have been converted to the belief that our finances and careers are like that, we just have to grow into what we are designed to be. If we just follow the simple, daily things that bring light to us, that warm us and that help us to grow in all aspects of life, and if we wait patiently we will have the beautiful career, spouse and the things that we ultimately desire.
Money is really nothing, despite what we tell ourselves sometimes, we already have every thing to make us happy around us, if we have all those things then, happiness is now. So until we can afford big bricks of cheese, and a car made in this decade, and that ridiculously over sized iPhone 6, there are some things we can do, we can enjoy life, our college friends, great professors, dances, football games, deep conversations, old cars, sodium filled foods, growing up, sunrises, smelly apartments, geeky roommates, late late nights, early early morning and blue skies so wide sometimes we don't know what to do with it.
That's why the best financial advice I have ever received is,
Relax.
What is some of the best advice you have received?
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